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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

No time

Lots to say and no time to say it.  So mouse is writing some things down and will discuss them in more detail after the holiday....

Couples therapy...That's a big one....LOL   (see below)

Thanksgiving madness....

Uncooperative weather....

Shopping....

Decorating....

Hanukah...

Honestly, those are just a few that mouse can rattle off the top of her head.  With this anticipated invasion, and with the computer in a public place don't think mouse will be on much.   But also look for posts at odd times, instead of the usual morning ones...Omega said his family are always up early.

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Couples Therapy

As most are aware Omega has sexual addiction issues and has had them for years.  So not going to debate if sex addiction is "real" or not....mouse knows it's real.  Part of his issues is when he gets super stressed out he emotionally becomes distant, to the point of being unavailable.  Ok...a Dom only concerned with is own needs...Kinda funny....isn't that the point of being the Dom?

Omega's made great strides this year, but he's going to through an incredibly sexually selfish period.  Don't want to make it seem like it's not allowed, but the warning bells are going off in mouse's head.   Yesterday was couples therapy day, so we talked...well, mouse whined a little about being neglected.  Seriously, no maintenance, love making, no pleasure (at least on mouse's end) for more than a couple weeks.  Of course he's had his pleasures...But there's not been a lot of loving going on.

Omega was quietly seething that mouse would bring this up....The therapist reminded him that this was  safe place.  Also, the therapist knows ALL about our dynamic.  He knows everything.  But he also made some important observations, we are in a Master/slave relationship but we are also a married couple.  We both have needs.

While our M/s side is fine, our married life is out of balance.  The trick is to balance both so both sides function well.   If our married life is out of balance, then eventually our M/s life will suffer....vice versa has the same effect.

Omega agreed and after thinking about it, much later,  said he was happy that it was brought to his attention before it got out of control.  While there wasn't any sex last night, there was a lot of cuddling, and sweet words of great appreciation.  It's a good start!

4 comments:

  1. I'm so glad that you recognized it before it got out of control. That's always a good sign... and it makes it a lot easier to nip it in the bud before it becomes a real problem. And well... the bonding without necessarily having sex will probably be very good for him too. I'm sure he can use some just plain old love and cuddles right now too (even if he doesn't think so :-P).

    *hugs* to you both and have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

    turiya

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  2. mouse, I'm glad you were able to discuss your concerns and the result was positive.
    I hope you get to enjoy your family and have a very happy Thanksgiving!
    Ally

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  3. Happy Thanks giving mouse, I hope you have a happy holiday . HS x

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  4. Thanks for sharing this experience here - that's interesting and helpful to me to hear.

    aisha

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