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Friday, January 13, 2012

The word

From someone on Formspring
hi mouse. I just have one question. Hope you do not mind me asking. if you do choose to withdraw consent of living this life style as a slave will your husband honour it? will you two still be married? I ask to understand better. hope I did not offend you
There is nothing wrong with the question at all, and mouse found nothing offensive about it. It's not one that is really easy to explain. It's also something that sparks serious debate within the lifestyle itself.
The short answers to both your questions are no. Simply put mouse has handed herself over to Omega, so any decision about her is for him to decide. Just as if she were given to him by another person, mouse has no choice but to agree to whatever wishes he has. That's the short non-specific answer.
If Omega were to become abusive then mouse could beg for the release (as a last resort) and if he didn't agree, she would take back her personal power and leave anyway -- but she would NOT be released from him. There would be no closure to that part of her life and she would not be "free" to seek another Dom (not that she'd want to). Technically, mouse owns this house, so she'd probably call the sheriff. Since we are legally married divorce papers would be filed. Our prenup could come into play.
D/s must be fed well to endure, if it's not, yes, our dynamic could maybe end, but would mouse beg for release on those terms? Probably not, nothing short of catastrophic conditions would get her to leave him or formally end our relationship. or make her entertain the possibility. Even if she did ask, he'd probably say no and wouldn't honor it, but there would be lots of discussion about our feelings and why seemed necessary to ask.
It's interesting to note that not even death would result in release. It would be for Omega to release mouse, or to find her another Master...believe it or not it's not uncommon. It's doubtful that mouse would be released to another tho. More than likely, Omega would be certain to provide for mouse in the way he would if he were here (he has done that). He would likely release her from her M/s obligation or make it clear that upon his death she was (he has said that).
These answers are specific to our dynamic. Someone else might give different answers, there's not any hard or fast rules about situations like this.
Hope that helped!
Hugs,
mouse

9 comments:

  1. AnonymousJanuary 13, 2012 at 7:18 AM

    i love you guys...

    aisha

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  2. mouseJanuary 13, 2012 at 8:15 AM

    aisha,

    Well thank you! It's not an easy subject.

    Hugs,
    mouse

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  3. AnonymousJanuary 13, 2012 at 8:25 AM

    That was a fantastic answer! I love that while you will probably always consider yourself O's property, if the unthinkable happens your are prepared to so what you need to.

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  4. mouseJanuary 13, 2012 at 8:28 AM

    Anonymous,

    Thank you! Yes, O is nothing if prepared and totally pragmatic about the future in all areas of his life.

    Hugs,
    mouse

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  5. greengirlJanuary 13, 2012 at 2:46 PM

    mouse,
    It is very interesting the ways people feel about things - this level of commitment you describe is huge. I guess we are different because marriage was first - and long preceded ownership. I can't imagine it at this point - but we have talked about the fact that if he were to release me - or i were to sincerely request it - we would remain married. I get tangled if i try to think about the interrelationship between the two too much.

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  6. sinJanuary 14, 2012 at 7:18 AM

    Great answer. And something to think about. Thank you!

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  7. mouseJanuary 14, 2012 at 8:55 AM

    Greengirl -- short of abuse mouse can honestly think of no reason to ask for release. There would be LOTS of discussion about why that request was made, but it's doubtful that mouse would be "relieved" of her obligations to our dynamic. Our marriage is in no way dependent on our dynamic.

    Even if release were granted (which is unlikely), we would still be married.

    As with many things in life, other things might become more important for a time and take over the trips to kinkyland. Asking for release is something else entirely.

    Hugs,
    mouse

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  8. mouseJanuary 14, 2012 at 8:56 AM

    Sin -- preparing for the future is always a good thing...talking about what you would do is also important.

    Hugs,
    mouse

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  9. squirrelJanuary 17, 2012 at 3:39 PM

    This was a very thought-provoking post, mouse. Thanks to both of you for sharing - and to the person who asked. :-) You have a wonderfully, strong dynamic with Omega.

    love, squirrel

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