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Monday, October 15, 2012

Still having fun

Still around kinda...And surprise mouse actually kinda does miss blogging. We are still accepting formspring questions and at the moment those give mouse something to write about. Although we have noticed they NEVER generate the kind of comments regular posts do or rather did we'll keep plugging along with them.

It's hard to let go of this place. Honestly can't even even think of a title for this post. The dinner party is all planned the rib roast ordered...Wine has been selected. A housekeeper will come and help give the house a thorough overhaul -- Something Daddy insists upon and mouse feels rather humiliated by it. It just somehow screamed, "I know you can't handle it." Even though mouse knows all too well he's right. It's daunting. The whole thing. Regardless of how many people offer to 'help out,' it's still all the details are making mouse's head swim.

Do we do a buffet, or sit-down? Sit-down is more formal, but is our table large enough to handle the load? If its not, who do we move off to no man's land at a different table? Should we decide who sits where, or just let guests decide? Is "family style" appropriate for a formal gathering? Are there enough place settings of everything to accommodate such a gathering? (short answer is no).

The buffet idea on the surface seems nice, but how would guests handle prime rib, without a table? The outside area, unless the weather improves will be off limits...Ever try to balance a plate on your knees?

Is it too late to hire a caterer?

Of course it it's too late, but it doesn't stop mouse from wondering. Natually, all these questions are rhetorical, it doesn't stop mouse from asking them anyway. The dinner is formal, sit-down is a must and there is just enough place settings to go around. Everything will be kept as simplistic as possible and mouse knows it will all work out.

It's still daunting. Not a very sexy post at all! Lol. Sorry it's dull!

From formspring:

Hey mouse. How was omega introduced to BDSM? When did he start practicing it? If you had said no to BDSM when he suggested it would you 2 still be married today?

The answers to the first couple questions can be found here. The final question, is really mouse doesn't know -- or didn't know for sure. He kinda felt mouse wanted it. Honestly, tho mouse thinks deep down, he would have continued to woo mouse anyway. Thanks for asking them!

Why do you want to be a slave? What's in it for you? Is it b/c you were abused?

Oh dear, again? In a power exchange relationship you must get something out of it, otherwise you end up feeling depleted. There are women who chose to submit for various reasons, because their religion dictates it, because it's how they were raised, etc.

Now the answer on why mouse wants to be a slave is similar to the same reasons women submit for Bibical reasons. Except mouse leaves a diety out of it. The truth is she thrives best when she is controlled. When Alpha introduced mouse to slavery there were parts she was drawn toward, and that was one.

Prior to Alpha, there was no history of abuse in mouse's life. So she can't say she became a slave because she was damaged.

Many months ago you mentioned a poly relationship. Why did you not blog about it?

The poly relationship basically ended shortly after mouse blogged about it beginning. You can read the short blurb about that here. It should be said we're all still friends and care a great deal about each other, but we all decided this wasn't where we wanted to go.

Thanks for all the great questions and please keep them coming.

song selection: Still the One; Orleans

32 comments:

  1. Glad to see you mouse! I am up early working, with my second computer on in the background and saw you post.

    I know exactly the feeling about the housekeeper!

    "H" has been pushing for one since the twins came. Basically I too feel as if he is saying I can't handle it, then I run around cleaning stuff up before they get here when he's at work. What a waste it seems to me at times.

    I also understand the thriving best when controlled, although, I still seem to fight it most of the time. Something I need to balance out. I am quite drawn to the idea, but my "H" is new to everything as am I and I also have a very strong willed nature... I think I'm rambling here.
    Anyways, nice to see you post!

    Take care and I hope you both have a lovely dinner party. I couldn't imagine hosting one these days, though I spend hours on Pinterest pinning ideas for food and decorations.

    The last party we hosted here was a baby shower!
    Maybe one day.

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    1. Hi emi!!

      Yes, it's really a love/hate thing regarding the housekeeper -- even if it's only for a day. Honestly, mouse bobbles back and forth between complete confidence and total panic!

      Feeling your Dom's control is so helpful -- not many really understand that.

      Thanks for your comments,
      Hugs,
      mouse

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  2. ooh i got kind of excited when this appeared on blogroll, is that sad? dont answer that its rhetorical! lol

    A housekeeper, oh what i wouldnt do for one of them even just once a month although i can understand how it makes you feel, in theory i like the idea in practice i would probably feel 'redundant' but then im fussy and self confessed ocd about cleaning.

    Im sure the meal will go fine, i wander if perhaps part of you likes the hectic pace of it? my mum thrives on throwing huge parties to intimate small gatherings, me i panic but good luck.

    Hope your all well.

    xx

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    1. Lol Tori,

      It is kinda like a backward compliment. He said he knows mouse will be stressed with all the details, so he felt hiring a housekeeper seemed 'prudent' and while mouse can't disagree with the logic....but still...

      Yes, Daddy has practically converted mouse...or at least drove her personal OCD...a good friend mentioned it could be because of the baby and the feelings of lack of control...

      Dunno about that.

      As always, thankyouverymuch for your always wonderful comments.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  3. That's the nice thing about blogging - you can come and go - although I like to keep to a schedule as well, it can be demanding.

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    1. Oh yes kitty! Having a schedule was very demanding...especially when there isn't anything exciting to share...

      It's been nice to hit the snooze on the blog.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  4. Yay!! A post from mouse!!

    monkey girl like non-sexy posts too! And a huge dinner party would cause me to question too. I didn't think of the buffet style, kinda thinks that's a good idea then people can pick and choose how much they want to eat.

    You've been missed(and Omega too)!!
    Hugs,

    mg

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    1. Waves hi to mg,

      We've more or less dismissed the buffet idea. Too difficult to balance a plate on your knees....lol. They'd still need a table.

      What mouse will likely do is serve each person (sighs). But she gets to use her pretty silver so it's ok.
      Hugs,
      mouse

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  5. MOUSE!! YAY!! {waves madly}

    i'm so glad to see you!

    i think hearing about your dinner party concerns is interesting. So there. So are your answers to questions.

    i'm sure your dinner party will be lovely. As for the housekeeper - gosh, i only have someone who comes to clean once every 2 weeks, but i LOVE it. i know you don't, but it's unfortunate you can't enjoy it even half as much as i do.

    hugs,

    aisha

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    1. Waves to aisha!!

      We've had a housekeeper at various times, the latest time mouse had to serious restrain herself from cleaning before the housekeeper came -- lol. The poor woman might have thought we lived like animals!

      Unfortunately, the housekeeper moved, so we just didn't replace her since things with the baby were more simple -- well easier. Lol.

      Thanks for your comments -- mouse adores hearing from you!

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  6. it's great to see a post, mouse. Good luck with the dinner, it can just seem overwhelming when you look at all of the details. Good luck. We've missed your posts.

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    1. Thanks so much for the luck Sir! It's a good bet mouse will need all she can muster. Thanks also for taking the time to comment.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  7. I was thinking (yeah i can hear the sigh from here) i get the thriving on being controlled, was there a situation/circumstance, a time when you just felt it all come together?, that it wasnt a struggle to submit to the level of control Omega has over you? are you there now?

    sorry but Formspring just doesnt allow enough characters for me!

    x

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    1. Lmao tori!!!!

      <3 that question and you!

      It really all came together early this year. After mouse went through that really dark time. When Daddy started just letting mouse talk about anything things improved. After that all the struggling just diminished and things just got much easier. It's remained that way too.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  8. Oh, man, a housekeeper?!? Even for a one shot deal, I'd give my eyeteeth...
    If I ask very nicely, bat my eyelashes, offer brownies all 'round, and promise to record at least 10,000 of the words in Molly Bloom's soliloquy, would you guys send her here when you don't need her anymore???
    (If she paints bulkheads too, I might even propose marriage...)

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    1. You, Jz, had mouse at brownies!!!

      <3 and hugs,
      mouse

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  9. No, mouse, your post isn't dull. Sex isn't the only interesting thing in the world (even though it's one of the MOST interesting things.) I'm glad you are still around. Yours is actually one of the most interesting blogs I know, so please keep posting whenever you feel like it.

    Tell us how the dinner went when you have recovered from it!

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    1. Oh Malcolm Sir! You have no idea how your words warmed mouse's heart.

      Of course she'll post about the party -- right after she recovers...

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  10. Hi mouse!

    I think that you should blog when the blog muse calls to you
    and about whatever you wish

    ahem - at least that's what I do.

    miss you

    sfp

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    1. Sfp,

      True and that's probably what mouse will do....

      Sending lots of positive energy your way.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  11. Your baaaaaack! Your back your back your back your back your baaaaaack! Wooooo hooooo
    YOUR BACK!

    Ok, I'm done
    Genna

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    1. Genna!!!

      Your welcome any time!

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  12. Mouse,
    Love to see you post. I'm not diligent about my own blog, but i do enjoy reading yours.
    Maryann

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  13. We've missed you, mouse. Hope things are going well.I love planning parties, but it's so stressful & then you go through it kind of numb, and then you just kind of collapse from exhaustion after, lol - doesn't sound like much fun, huh?

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    1. Hey June,

      In the abstract dinner parties are fun. The planning and everything...it's when you start fussing over details...when you get close, when your done testing recipes and you get closer....

      That's when mouse gets dizzy.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  14. Mouse! What a pleasure to see another post. Even the most mundane thing seems interesting when you post about it :)
    How is everyone? Good luck on your dinner party, that kind of thing is absolutely terrifying for me...you sound much calmer than I would be. What would be your best hostessing tip?

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    1. Antimama lol....

      It is daunting...ok terrifying...lol.

      The best tip is to smile and keep the glasses filled and the conversation flowing. Know little details about each guest, and make proper introductions. If by the time dinner is served everyone is on their way to being smashed they won't notice the food as much...

      Always end the meal with a grand dessert and good coffee. They always remember best the last thing they eat.

      Lol...those are the best tips mouse can think of...

      Hugs,
      mouse

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    2. Forgot to thank you for the great comment!!

      Hugs again,
      mouse

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  15. Awe... wish I could help with the cooking. You know how I love to cook. And yeah... when you mentioned being upset about O hiring a housekeeper it sorta made me think of a convo we had last year when you were pissed because he wouldn't let you hire one. LOL... funny how things change. But seriously, I don't think he means it in a negative way... like you're not up to it. We're human and can only do so much, ya know? I'm sure he just doesn't want you to be overwhelmed with all that needs to be done.

    *hugs*

    Turiya

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    1. Eh it's over now --- Thankfully and a huge success. But regarding the housekeeper....it's one thing to say, "we need one" and have him say, "no you need to better budget your time." And quite another for him to say, "I've hired a housekeeper."

      One says quite clearly, you can handle it and the other says you're not capable of handling it.

      While mouse was doing the very best she could do under the circumstances and still circling the drain it's not surprising he said it. BUT it still hurt a little to know that he was right about this and obviously back then too....

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  16. I've been reading your blog off and on for the past few months as I begin my formal training as a submissive to my Lord, I'm quite sorry to learn that you are stepping away, I have found your blog to be inspiring and informative. Warm thoughts for your future and I might send a question or two.

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