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Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Am I a pain slut?

I asked Master that question the other day after the whole ass beating and clover clamp thing, and he laughed.  I've never really thought of myself as being a pain slut.  Never.  


I've thought of myself as masochist.  But never really a pain slut.  I don't get "off" on pain, or more simply put, I don't need pain to have an orgasm.  I need pain to stay in balance, to cry, to whimper, not to moan.  And I think for the most part, Master likes my reactions because the sadist in him likes to inflict pain and enjoys the tears the pain brings.  


I dunno maybe I'm missing something here?  


Ya this is short but it's been on my mind for sometime now.

12 comments:

  1. I think some people just enjoy pain while others need it and there is a huge difference. I don't think of myself as a pain slut either (hell I don't even think I'm a masochist), but I do know people who are... and they have a very different attitude toward pain than I do. They actually love it... they get excited by it and they can have orgasms because of it. It's like pain doesn't even hurt them. It just stimulates them.

    spirited

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  2. See that to me is just wild. I can't even imagine.

    mouse

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  3. Oh yeah, I know... same here. They must have like multitudes of endorphins running through their bodies all the time or something.

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  4. I recall well about ten years ago as my swan was coming to recognize that she was in fact a pain slut. The issue was not so much was she....did that description aptly describe her orientation.....but rather how did that realization effect her self-concept?

    There was a process she went through of first coming to terms with appying the term masochist to herself and then.....oh my god.....PAIN SLUT. She went through the realization of that part of her personality, to acceptance, to discovering it is an asset, to finally valuing her "pain slutiness" as a unique gift that is part of what makes her quite special.

    I hope your evolution follows a similar path.

    All the best,

    Tom

    Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined.

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  5. I'm not even sure how you'd actually describe a pain slut, so I don't know how anyone answers that question. Pain gives a level of stimulation that can be enjoyable. But it can also just hurt like hell. So where's the line? "I'm a pain slut up to this point here but don't go past it!" ???

    I can come from BG torturing my breasts. I've also about bitten off his manly bits when he gets too harsh. ("OK, I'm gonna take that as "yellow"...") It's too variable.

    I think this is another one of those words you just ignore... :-)

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  6. Mouse,
    I've had a growing uneasiness, or want or craving, something I can't really figure out. The more I try to think about it though - the more I keep coming back around to pain. I know it's all relative, but I'm sure that what I'm pondering is not like what you talk about, but it still doesn't mesh in my brain. The feeling and craving seem to go one way while logic and sense go the other.

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  7. *chuckles* Spirited and i were just talking about this yesterday. i am the little pain slut, and for a long time, i thought that something was wrong with me. Maybe i am wired backwards. I think part of it has to do with the fact that through various chemical reactions as the bodies natural defense against pain, the body produces excess amounts of serotonin, the happy chemical, which is normally low in my body... But thats just a random guess...

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  8. Jz has a good point too... I mean, I do enjoy a nice erotic spanking... you know, the ones where there's a slight sting, but not much more? I dunno... I still don't think that would make one a pain slut, though. I'd hardly call that pain.

    spirited

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  9. What's a pain slut? Interesting question really. I think that pain heightens pleasure up to a point, and then gets in the way of it, and then after you cum, if you manage to cum, the pain all comes slamming back into you.

    I think that while my Master calls me pain slut, I love the pain because he gives it to me, because it's something I can give him. Not just for the sake of pain itself.

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  10. It seems we are describing activities that are assumed to be painful. What about activities that are not assumed to be painful, such as intercourse or some types of rough sex? Is one a pain slut because you like having your hair pulled? What if you can't imagine having your nipples clamped but must be spanked past tears to feel any form of release? Are we pain sluts because some of the activities we participate in are painful yet sexualized? What about emotional pain? Can those who yearn for that be considered pain sluts?

    The limitations of words strikes again,,,

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  11. Yes, there are pain sluts who can get orgasms from receiving pain. As Spirited said, it stimulates them.

    But the interesting thing is that for some of them, they have to be in the mood for the pain to turn them on. I guess it's like being horny for pain. But if they're not in that mood, it's just pain. They take it to please their Master but it is just pain.

    There is no one size fits all. Some subs just like a spanking and it goes up the scale to real pain.

    FD

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  12. I linked over here from Florida Dom's post...I actually just posted some of my own musings on pain/pleasure earlier today, after a weekend that left me pondering where that line is for me.

    I've never considered myself a pain slut either, or even a masochist, but there ARE certain types of pain that are pleasurable to me, and even those that aren't I get a great a deal of satisfaction in enduring for my Top. Somehow his presence and my connection to him makes me able--and willing--to deal with more.

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