This is a post I've been kinda holding on to for a while now. I've gotten a few emails asking about my different rituals that I follow. Sometimes I consider them rituals, like how I wake O in the morning. There are routines, like making coffee. Then there are protocols on how these things are done. Please note this is just a glimpse into my life with O. Every Dom and dynamic is different.
Routines are easy, so if it's ok I'll start with those. The routine changes daily but there are things that I do everyday. Like work. That's a big routine. Especially now that I work from home the need for routine is even greater. Routine is brushing my teeth, setting out Omega's things like putting the tooth paste on the toothbrush for him, shaving cream warmed...etc., preparing meals also falls under routine for us.
How the meals are served is more a protocol. The table is set, I am to be dressed nicely, not as if we were going out, but respectable. The table is set, flowers are sometimes part of that. It looks nice. No crap covering the table either. My todo list, which is written out at breakfast each morning, is the only paper, and always placed on his plate so he can review it before his evening meal. Anything else that requires his attention might be placed there as well, but more often is left on his desk in the study. I serve him first, then anyone else, saving myself for last. All the meals are pretty much served this way and ya there are times I feel like I'm always cooking something. The mornings are the worst because I need to organize the breakfast, coffee, waking Omega, and blogging!
Another protocol I follow is to check the weather and make sure he has whatever he might need for the day. I keep my eyes lowered in submission to him, and never ever turn my back to him, unless I'm cooking.
Rituals, more or less come into play in the evening. Each night Omega watches me as I do my evening ritual of meditation. Sometimes he'll require me to place clamps on my breasts, but just as often not. I remain quiet and contemplate the day, what I did right and wrong. What I will try to correct, and what I will let go of. I end it mentally the same way that I am the personal property of Omega and my purpose is to serve him. He will lay out on the bed a nightgown if it's his wish I wear one, and watches me as I put it on. Then I come around to his side of the bed and ask for permission to join him (if I am told to wear clamps they are removed then because I'm not allowed to touch them). He removes my wedding ring from my finger and places it in the dish by his side of the bed where he will put it back on my finger after I wake him in the morning.
Unless I'm told otherwise, I will then climb into bed beside him and we'll talk for a little while. This is the one time of the day I'm allowed to speak completely freely. We will talk about anything. He will decide if he wants to use me before sleep. Before maintenance, there is a protocol used for that. He will ask for the strap, and I will get it, kiss it before handing it to him, and then again when he's finished, I will thank him, kiss it again and put it away.
Morning rituals include how Omega begins his day, coffee is placed on the bedside table, and I wake him by providing him oral attention. Somedays he'll stop me, and prefer a different part of my body, and very few times I'm rejected entirely. Occasionally he will wake before me sometimes he'll decide to perform maintenance on me, or use me sexually. Sometimes still we just make love (different from use, which is about his needs--making love is more mutual).
We really don't have whole lot of rules, rituals or protocols, and these are the ones mostly used inside our home.