It was late Wednesday afternoon, mouse was being still and contemplating the term equal but different. Many people seem to think submission is the same as inferior. While mouse is subservient to Daddy, she is not less than he is. We are equally important to make our relationship work. There is this dichotomy to our dynamic -- and it's needed in order to exchange power.
Daddy thrives when he is in control and is naturally that way with everyone, while mouse is the polar opposite of that. What's funny is that she's always been that way. Oddly, you'd think mouse's personality is completely eclipsed by Daddy, but we compliment each other. Daddy has expectations of behavior that mouse seemed to understand instinctively from the beginning. He always shows great patience when dealing with mouse and seems to take pride in the fact she belongs to him.
Likewise mouse is much more confident when she's with Daddy. Odd how that works, yet true. When we're together mouse can more readily find her voice or stifle it at will. Often we send signals to each other that are missed by others. Like a silent conversation.
Over dinner as we talked about our respective day, mouse tho, remained contemplative and deep in her mind. Still, even with her head bubbling with thoughts, she made sure Daddy had everything he needed. Later, he genuinely wanted to know if something were bothering mouse.
Naturally, mouse assured him that nothing was troubling her, well mostly.
As time passed mouse finally started explaining and prefaced the thoughts. Daddy encourages mouse to read about all facets or flavors of D/s. Recently, mouse had stumbled upon numerous websites written by submissive men. These all seemed to have thing in common. They all put down men as being inferior to women -- any woman, even submissive ones. One even suggested that female submission was nothing more than a clever ruse to control men. Another proclaimed based on his own preferences and skewed observations that all women will very quickly rise up and take control of the world.
Within the lifestyle, there are always countless debate about who amoung us is submissive. Or submissive enough. This odd line of thinking leaves mouse baffled. Why would people put themselves down like that? Why would a Dominant encourage that kind of thought? Yet, it seems it is. Maybe it's just lip service and posturing, or they're tied up in the trappings of how they feel it should be, without considering it further. So let's be clear, mouse doesn't serve Daddy because he's superior to her -- she serves him because she's compelled to by her nature. In this, she was never forced and Daddy never makes her feel bad about herself. Nor would he tolerate in anyway her running off the mouth and talking about his superiority in all things. Daddy is the first in line to admit he's not perfect and has made many stellar mistakes -- just like mouse has done. Equality -- we both share responsibility for the success and failures of our dynamic. In our marriage and in our life, these duties while different are intrinsicly connected. Relationships shouldn't be about groveling at another's feet proclaiming their superiority. It's about being pleasing and giving what is needed. It's about demonstrating how much you care about that other person. Not about proclaiming the world is going the same way with your line of thinking or cherry-picking quotes from individuals with highly suspect motives. Because mouse is first to admit that not all men are worthy and it could also stand to reason that not all women are either.
Daddy controls (or dominates) and leads -- mouse capitulates (willingly surrenders) to his authority and follows. Without this our relationship certainly wouldn't last. We would both be very unfulfilled.
Song selection: The Crystal Ship; The Doors