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Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Slap You on the Back and Say...

At the party last weekend, everyone was talking politics, of course Daddy was always close by so when she was cornered by someone not well known to her, mouse could look to him. Naturally, mouse is allowed opinion, it's just the company she was in...people who were far opposite of where she stands on the political front. It seemed natural tho to just simply look to him when someone asked, 'what do you think of Romney's running mate choice,' instead of saying..."eeeew."

Daddy is better at doing that particular dance than mouse (who tends to be more devil-may-care with opinion). But it's also about surrender. Surrendering to Daddy means that mouse is no longer free to simply voice her opinion without giving him or the person inquiring a second thought. Funny, but mouse really should know better than to volunteer her opinion, we live in a very (read extremely) conservative area. It was good in the end that mouse didn't share her opinion, bit her tongue and just surrendered. And not only did it feel right, but she also got to hear his views.

In the end it wasnt just surrendering, it was pride in the way he handled himself, mouse was proud. It was something she hadn't noticed. Socially, he's quiet, thoughtful, but completely unafraid to voice his opinion in the most judicious way possible. He doesn't offend, unless that's his intent and even that he won't do usually.

So, why is mouse thinking about this now? No clue really. Just rambling maybe a little.

Song Selection: Stuck in the Middle with You; Stealers Wheel

12 comments:

  1. I'm wondering if the reason you're thinking ("rambling") about this now is because you're a little conflicted?

    "Naturally, mouse is allowed opinion"

    and

    "mouse is no longer free to simply voice her opinion without giving him or the person inquiring a second thought"

    I would think this would be hard: to have an opinion but not be free to voice it. Also must be hard to "surrender" to someone else who speaks from a different position.

    "It was good in the end that mouse didn't share her opinion [with conservative speaker], bit her tongue and just surrendered"

    Seems like a really different feeling from surrendering to Omega.

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    1. Anonymous,

      No, not really conflicted Daddy got quite an earful as he drove home from the party. Sure voicing ones opinion can be fun and cathartic, but in company where she's not well acquainted, it could be considered odd form of social suicide; not to mention detrimental to his career.

      But what mouse hoped the post would do is highlight how surrender can include many things outside the bedroom or house.

      Hugs,
      mouse


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  2. Those kind of parties make H nervous cause monkey girl is a way left wing California liberal girl(think Santa Cruz liberal). Of course, I too can voice my opinion but true in H's line of work they are very conservative too. H would generally squeeze my hand if he thought might go on a crazy liberal rant....but with his parents he just lets monkey girl loose. Mostly cause it entertains him, I think. But I still usually bite my tongue with them too, however they're not fooled. They think I'm the crazy California girl who trapped their son into marrying her...if they only knew. lol.

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    1. mg,

      Since mouse is from San Francisco (the place one person disparaged as being the cuckoo capital of the world) it annoys mouse to no end. Often her opinion is just dismissed all together which can be more infuriating to mouse. Better not to engage.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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    2. Oh mouse, I completely understand 150%. lol. But then again, I'm a SF nutcase too! ;D

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  3. I do admire how naturally surrendering comes to you. Hoping to be there myself one day, it is a slow process. Slower then I would like.

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    1. Dancingbarez,

      It is soooo not easy in fact, mouse constantly reminds herself that surrender is also about respect.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  4. Dear Anon,

    I can't speak for mouse but I'd like to comment. My husband works in a very conservative field(often government contracts). It would be inappropriate for me to attend a company party and question the sanity of every person there because of their politics...even though I'm sorely tempted. It wouldn't help him in his work. He, too is a liberal, tho a tad more conservative than me, lol. But he deals with them day in and day out and knows how to expertly deflect those kind of situations...I don't. He'd let me go wild(I think) if I was just fired up but that wouldn't really help him and he knows I'd feel so guilty afterwards. So he often squeezes my hand in a loving way when someone starts talking politics. It's a reminder for me...and really you can't change people.
    I guess the point I'm making is...I'm conflicted too. But H knows me well enough to know I'd never want to hurt his livelihood and if I went on a rant I'd feel ever so guilty for putting him in such a predicament.
    Sincerely,
    mg

    Omega, please feel free to not publish this comment if you so choose. ;)

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  5. quiet and thoughtful is one of my favorite combinations. i hate when i find myself surrounded by loud and thoughtless. i don't know why it's so common.

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  6. Im not very knowledgeable about politics, certainly not enough to have a meaningful discussion about policies etc so i would stay quiet rather than try and engage in a conversation that is out of my depth.

    Like Dancingbarez i struggle to surrender especially when it comes to voicing my opinion, but your reply to her about seing surrender as also about respect has had a lightbulb effect lol, i really hadnt thought of it in that way. Its helpful to look it in that way because i know i can get defensive if i feel my opinions are being dismissed.

    x

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  7. Oh, I'm political, and pretty liberal, and there are places where it's appropriate to voice that and places where it's less appropriate.

    I think if it's a strictly social situation, where you all really are friends, then it's appropriate for you to say what you want. But in a work/social situation, the spouse should probably go along with what their partner feels is appropriate.

    -sin

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