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Friday, October 18, 2013

Slowing it Down

Not his control. Daddy's slowing mouse down. Yesterday, we bickered a little, nothing major, there's been no failure of expectations. He just wants mouse to slow down. While mouse writes the blog in the third person, and used to speak that way all the time, another thing mouse kind of decided wasn't that important and well...let it slide.

Speaking in the third person isn't hard. And no, it's not like mouse goes around saying things like...

"Mouse thinks you're..."
Or
"That's not fair, mouse doesn't want a spanking!"

It's far more subtle than that. It requires a bit of thought on how to word something properly. It's like speaking a language you're not entirely fluent in, you spend most of your time thinking about how to word something than actually speaking, and In our case that's really a good thing.

Ever hear the term diarrhea of the mouth?

There's a strong tendency to ramble. He despises it. He's reeling in the control, fine tuning it and adjusting where and when needed.

We bicker, that won't change, in a way, we're both hard-wired to be difficult, each in our way. We stubbornly butt heads. Not over expectations, or even his obey rule. Over other things, like the things people refrain from speaking about. Religion, politics, beliefs and other things like how to vacuum or how to scrub the toilet. It's not as though mouse doesn't know how....the floor gets clean, despite it, the toilet is clean too. Our styles are different. Sure he could issue a proclamation to force mouse to do it his way. Like he controls the way she speaks, the clothes she wears, or the way she walks and mouse doesn't know why he doesn't, except those things are sort of superficial.

Maybe, and it's quite possible, he just enjoys a good challenge.

19 comments:

  1. A challenge, huh, you might on to something...

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    1. Yes, think so...

      If nothing else mouse is a challenge. But she likes to think that's a good thing.

      hugs,
      mouse

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  2. I so understand this...
    At times, I do not always do so well with the being told "how" to something.
    Tell me you want it done, tell me you expect it, but when it comes to the details, I occasionally struggle with it.
    But then again, it depends on what it is: Making the bed the exact way he wants? Sure..so not worth picking a battle over.
    I think a little bit of bickering can be good...though I prefer the term "debating" :o)

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    1. debating! YES!

      We often debate, but sometimes we do just simply bicker...actually a bit more recently than usual.

      It's true with most things, picking your battles carefully.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  3. that last comment made me smile mouse. have a wonderful weekend. ;)
    xo,
    mg

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    1. Thanks! It was a nice weekend...busy tho...

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  4. I ramble.....im guessing that isnt going to come as a shock lol

    The bossman is a man of few words, he gets straight to the point, whereas me i tend to natter on...and yeah he has little patience for that, and i am guilty for speaking whats on my mind before thinking it through...that gets me in trouble more than anything else.

    So i can see how implementing speaking in the third person can minimise that....although i wander does it become so second nature that it doesnt make a difference?

    I dont think (although i could well be wrong) that anyone would want to be in a relationship with someone that was a "yes i agree with everything you say", that are incapable of forming their own opinion.

    I like what Bleuame said about is it worth picking a battle over, its like when we decorate, or purchase new furniture, the bossman will pretty much give me leeway (apart from his study), when we had the new kitchen fitted last year he wasnt too keen on the flooring or the worktops, he could have absolutley put his foot down and chosen what he preferred but, he understood im in it the majority of time..he let it go.

    Hope you have a great weekend

    x









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    1. Ohhh the rambling makes him crazy...He can convey most of his messages to mouse with a mere eyebrow raise.

      Seriously.

      And mouse...

      Well she needs to find her way around with lots of words...slowly inching toward what she really needs to say...It drives him nuts..

      Hugs
      mouse

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  5. I love the idea that one can still be free to have passionate discussions or conflicting ideas about religion and politics (etc) that in no way transgresses the boundaries of a D/s dynamic ... xx

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    1. Oh yes, we have lots of discussions. Most are pretty interesting too. As long as mouse remembers to be respectful there's not really an issue....

      But he knocks the music choices on her ipod...the gloves come off...LMAO

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  6. And thank God some Dominants do need at least a little challenge... or some of us would never find a Dom :) Lovely as always, mouse :)

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  7. P and I disagree on politics, religion, cooking techniques, quite number of issues.... Which goes to show that relationships aren't based on shared opinions but respect and understanding.

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    1. That is the key isn't it? Respect and understanding.

      You don't have to agree on everything (sometimes later you do agree on a particular issue), but respect must be present.

      Hugs,
      mouse

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  8. This last part made me smile =)

    I'm sure he enjoys the challenge.

    hugs,
    fiona

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  9. To me, you are the model of submission.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Oh please...wait was that sarcasm??

      Oh mouse loves sarcasm..

      Daddy would say that mouse is a model of something but it isn't' submission...LMAO

      At least not all the time...
      Hugs,
      mouse

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  10. I have a tendency to ramble, usually with those people I know for quite some time -as a direct result of past experiences- so I know about those. But then, I do love a good debate. :) But you are probably right. He probably does love the challenge.

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