Finally Friday

Good morning,

Today's post will be a mix-bag of Formspring-me questions and other very random thoughts.

First from Formspring:

Have you ever switched roles with your Master or Daddy?


What a great question!  Yes, in some dynamics people might switch and they're fine with that.  For Daddy and mouse the answer is a firm no.  


Other somewhat related but disjointed thoughts...


Actually switching is something that we've never discussed and mouse never considered.  After this question came around mouse did ask Daddy and he laughed.   Not at all certain if he was laughing at the question, at mouse or the idea.  Maybe all three.  


The truth is mouse likes our places in this relationship.  He's the Top and mouse on safely on the bottom. It's really amazing being under someone's control, especially when they know what they're doing with that control and not just playing games.  


Some truly believe there's a back door to submission.  They believe they can be sly and plant little kernels and boom one day they'll have a slave (or a Master).  But it's not how it works.  Both have to understand exactly what it means to serve.  What the expectations are for the Top and the bottom, you can't have this discussion without a lot of trust and honestly.  


If you can't trust your partners reaction to the most basic element of M/s how will you EVER thoroughly trust they're not just going along with you?  


If the sadistic side of your dynamic ever stopped, would you look for someone else to give that or would you turn to hurting yourself?


Another great question and actually the sadistic side ended months ago.  Yes, there is still some rough sex and mild play.  But nothing as it was before, most of the hardcore toys have been dismantled and sold.  He does still own the Gyno table tho.  Heh.  It's an antique so he keeps it for the curiosity factor.  


Would mouse harm herself, no.  It's not in her make-up to do that.  As long as Daddy provides a strong position and commands her, mouse is comfortable in submission so that it doesn't happen.


Hi Mouse, how are you so obedient all the time? I find that I am obedient for a while and then get "bratty"!!


Well, Daddy would certainly argue that mouse has serious bratty moments.  But for the most part strives to quell the inner brat and remain obedient.  This kinda goes back to that Back Door to submission idea that mouse was discussing earlier in this post.  Some are totally fine with the idea of submission until they're actually told to do something they didn't consider.  Then the brattiness might come out.  


For mouse it comes out for other reasons, and stress is the number one factor.  Feeling too harried, or under the gun causes mouse to become snappish.  That's the latest thing she's been working on.  Organizing her life so that things really work for her...And it does work!  


This whole reoganization that mouse has been through over the summer has really made her see how much better he life could be and she's thrilled for the opportunity to learn this lesson.  




Thanks for all the great questions and thanks for taking the time to read through all these answers!  


Hugs,
mouse