It's flattering when people will say in a comment that they're reading the blog from the beginning while mouse applauds them, tho part of mouse does want to scream...Oh no....Don't! You'll see how mouse hasn't changed at all and still whines about the same stuff she whined about from the start. Ok, that last bit was harsh, because Daddy is quick to point out there has been a lot of growth in mouse.
We do completely welcome comments or remarks on past posts (even those done years ago), and it's just a little harder for mouse to followup on them at times...but she will weed through and reply where appropriate. There was a funny exchange on post found here, between tori and cockdoll/goodgirl. This was hugely exciting for mouse to see people interacting in their own way.
It felt like we were truly sitting around the kitchen table having a chat.
All too often blogging feels more like giving a lecture or talk on something of shared interest. The conversation that occurs generally has to do with the content, directed at Daddy or mouse, but not really with others commenting, unless they agree. That's why mouse was so excited to see this.
Tori remarked about a time she cut her hair super short, because she was frustrated with her Master. A very brave or silly move but one that mouse could understand. The need to do something completely drastic to get their attention. She further remarked that he (her owner) threatened to shave her head. So Daddy and mouse are in bed and we're talking about that. He was holding mouse at the time, we were happy and contented. And mouse was talking about the comment.
Daddy gets busy too (which was the point of the post), and there are times that mouse feels like doing something drastic to get his attention. Daddy looked at mouse and said something about how this wasn't his trip to the rodeo...and reminded mouse that he had actually shaved a woman's head before. The slave in question and very long lovely hair and cut it short against his wishes. Very short. Like Demi in Ghost.
So Daddy took out a pair clippers and shaved her head (now it should be noted, Daddy said the slave worked from home so it wasn't like she had to go to work with a bald head - her family lived in another state). He said it was appropriate for this particular person and he would never do it without taking many things into consideration. But he did completely shave her head. Suddenly mouse recalled having a discussion on another blog (sin?) where she told that Daddy had once shaved a slave's head. He also noted the effect was profound on the slave -- instantly increasing her submission to him.
Letting go of the vanity...
He also said he'd never do that to mouse or consider doing it because it wouldn't be appropriate for us.
Then Malcolm wrote something that mouse didn't know how to respond to. In fact that remark gave her such pause she didn't want to single it out, so she didn't comment or reply to anyone's comments on that post.
I think it's hard to ask because then it wouldn't be much of a punishment. Don't you want it to be against your will? Don't you want him to force on you something you don't want? Seems to me that's how the dynamic works much of the time. If you are really naughty, you can earn a real punishment, not a fake one, and that is so much more satisfying.
The knee-jerk reaction to this was simply "no."
There are times that mouse does want to be forced to comply but not all the time and certainly not over any whim Daddy might have. There must be some trust in it that he wouldn't require mouse to do something she'd find so distasteful that it would be damaging to her and to us. Daddy wouldn't bother punishing for a "fake" reason. Deep down we'd both know it wasn't "real" but an excuse to play or whatever. But the larger problem is that punishments while they can feel cathartic are rarely "satisfying" or at least in the way mouse interpreted Malcolm to mean. There are indeed strong feelings of completion that follow a punishment. Daddy always explains why mouse is being punished, and honestly, mouse herself is well aware of the reasons since she's likely been warned a few times before.
Now having said that Daddy does feel a level of satisfaction that a debt has been paid, penance made and feels its best to just keep moving forward...but he also doesn't enjoy punishing mouse. He'd much rather have her go to him on her knees and beg for his touch or the leather strap or whatever than to punish. However such corrections are needed. That's another thing that mouse trusts too...if she stsrts drifting too far, he will find the appropriate way to pull her back.