Expectations

The biggest rule that mouse is expected to follow is to simply "Obey" Daddy. It's kinda simple and dare mouse suggest elegant? One rule. As we've begun this new part or phase or journey, he has expectations that go beyond the simple rule to "Obey."

It seems there is only one rule and many expectations. And he's not unreasonable about them either. He knows that we're parents and kids get sick or have their little meltdowns...and he's fine with something being put off. He doesn't want mouse to ignore them because he's given her a list of duties to perform. There are things however, he does not want put off and can be done even if a child is ill or having a melt down. Laundry is an example. Our machine isn't the newest or fanciest. It works fine and cleans the clothes. But it takes anywhere from 50-70 minutes to wash (or even longer depending on the cycle) and a depending on the load, 65-70 minutes to dry. So one or two loads a day he finds reasonable. Multiply that by the typical 12-15 loads a week mouse does...

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure it out. If she skips too many days the laundry becomes overwhelming. Other tasks like the cabinets, well mouse isn't likely to let that happen again. Actually feels rather bad that she did let it get so bad. Another expectation is to never leave the home without a detailed shopping list. Since mouse cooks like 90% of the time, he said mouse should know what we need.

He's only expecting two trips maximum per week to the grocery store and mouse must make a list and a budget. He's never complained on what mouse spends. What he does complain about is how much food is sometimes tossed out -- that's what he wants to avoid.  

Which no doubt will probably lead to more punishments corrections.

His expectations aren't unreasonable, if anything they're very reasonable and on more than a few levels mouse gets this.  Still it doesn't stop her from feeling like...crap.  Knowing they're reasonable doesn't stop mouse from struggling with them.  Or maybe it's just against him?

Maybe Master will have mouse type them all out on here under the "rules" tab.  Right now, they're in the handwritten journal mouse keeps.  He's been requiring that more lately, writing.  Pen to paper.  He said mouse's handwriting, for a woman, is deplorable.  So he has her writing out the expectations.

Master's expectations are organized (of course -- and mouse really isn't mocking this)  in different areas...like General, Sexual, Personal Grooming, Household, Mental and Social.  He's also added a few new protocols for mouse to follow.  None of these things are really all that new (well, some are), but they're areas where mouse has gotten more than a little sloppy about.  Master is quick to point out they're not failures on mouse -- he allowed it and admits that's on him.  But now it's time for all that to change.  Master wants mouse to meet his expectations.  On some levels mouse needs him to do that.  There's no point in having any expectations when they're not enforced or even recognized.

In many ways, this is the same old song and dance many submissive or Master/slave relationships fall into.  The slave (in this case mouse) requires something she can't effectively express from her Master.  The feeling of being contained.  Things became too lax in our relationship.  Maybe we both took it for granted?  And mouse should feel grateful he's pulling the chain, so to speak, and reeling mouse in a little.  It feels like a lot.  It doesn't stop mouse from struggling and even hating him for it a little.

Hate is such a strong word....Dislike might be better.