While everything for the most part is going really good between Daddy and mouse and all these new feelings she's been having, due mostly to the expectations he has. DV wrote a post recently on Dominants that struck mouse. Yes Daddy is totally trustworthy. He knows what he wants and that mouse is in a place where she's ready for it. Still there are things that just bug mouse about him.
Well, it's just one thing.
He'll look at mouse with dark eyes of his, and simply say that he understands. That's it. Just, "I understand." nothing more is said or needs to be said by him.
And it makes mouse insane....Because to her it's closing the door. He understands that mouse doesn't like the corset or that he's got a slew of new and improved expectations. He understands...
It doesn't do any good to argue because he'll only just repeat it.
Next to the whole, "[That's] not an appropriate question," the whole "I understand," is quickly becoming a button issue for mouse.
Does he care? Probably not in the least, in fact he finds it cute when mouse looks at him when her head is ready to explode. Ot even yells at him over it.
The messed up part is that heprobably does understand. He can tell from mouse's body language most times exactly how she's feeling. Its just stifling to her and it feels so much like she's being shut down and that could be the point.
He probably doesn't NEED to hear all the words mouse NEEDS to say. He doesn't need to hear mouse repeat herself 30 times about her frustration. He understands; he gets it and it's not going to change so in his own way the whole, "I understand" thing he does, is more like saying, "Yes dear I know it's hard and you're struggling but you will get used to it and that fact will not change. Now on your knees and polish my knob."
Once he had a very bad cold and couldn't speak for a few days. He made two signs...Guess what they said? Those two statements really do cover practically every situation.
Well, it's just one thing.
He'll look at mouse with dark eyes of his, and simply say that he understands. That's it. Just, "I understand." nothing more is said or needs to be said by him.
And it makes mouse insane....Because to her it's closing the door. He understands that mouse doesn't like the corset or that he's got a slew of new and improved expectations. He understands...
It doesn't do any good to argue because he'll only just repeat it.
Next to the whole, "[That's] not an appropriate question," the whole "I understand," is quickly becoming a button issue for mouse.
Does he care? Probably not in the least, in fact he finds it cute when mouse looks at him when her head is ready to explode. Ot even yells at him over it.
The messed up part is that he
He probably doesn't NEED to hear all the words mouse NEEDS to say. He doesn't need to hear mouse repeat herself 30 times about her frustration. He understands; he gets it and it's not going to change so in his own way the whole, "I understand" thing he does, is more like saying, "Yes dear I know it's hard and you're struggling but you will get used to it and that fact will not change. Now on your knees and polish my knob."
Once he had a very bad cold and couldn't speak for a few days. He made two signs...Guess what they said? Those two statements really do cover practically every situation.
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LOL! I'm so sorry mouse and I really don't mean to giggle at your expense, but I found this post funny, especially where you said what your Daddy "really" means by "I understand."
DV's post was great and it's always good to recall how trustworthy your Daddy is. Hopefully, you can reconcile your frustration with those two phrases and the fact that he is trustworthy. Just because you don't like "I understand." doesn't mean he hasn't heard you or taken your feelings into consideration. The truth is that if he was so easily swayed (because of your discomfort or displeasure) you would lose respect for him and his position. You need him to be firm and consistent for you. It feeds you and makes you feel safe.
hugs
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"Yes dear I know it's hard and you're struggling but you will get used to it and that fact will not change. Now on your knees and polish my knob." ... sorry, I can't help but laugh at this.
I have a few rules when I comment. One is never tell a female I understand. And, saying that to my wife would be pushing the Italian temper button.
This comment is about your other post. A couple years ago I realized I was fake smiling a lot, and I hate it when other people fake smile at me, because fake smiles are awful. So I decided it was genuine smiles or nothing. It's surprising how much thought it takes to cut out fake smiles. But people definitely have positive reactions to genuine smiles, sometimes even surprise, which is fun to see.
My Mouse,
You often amaze me with your restraint. You have been keeping this journal since 2009 and this is first time you have dedicated an entire post to my use of "I understand," and the less often used, "Not an appropriate question slave."
I would have thought that might have been post #1. Yes, I have heard this in the past, how infuriating it is to be told that someone understands what you are going through.
When have I ever demanded that you,"polish my knob?"
You do make me smile mouse.
Unconditionally,
Omega
lol, it certainly has an air of finality to it, that yes you can mumble or whatever but its not going to change anything.....its just simply the way it is!
x
mine has the word "whatever".................( i hate it to bits , and He knows it..) i know there is no arguing when i hear it but still it pushes my buttons . hugs saffy x
laughs....
So I'm guessing Omega didn't have a sign that said,
"Polish my knob"
because that's what monkey girl is picturing right now!! lol
mouse,
If I may ask without pushing a button, what would you rather Omega said? You mention that when he expresses himself using "I understand" that for you it is closing the door. Is that your way of saying that when he says those words you feel as though there is no room for discussion? And if that is the case what discussion are you looking for?
I believe it takes tremendous determination and restraint not to revolt against some of the expectations Omega has for you. I speak from my point of view of course and not yours, from my experiences and hurdles so I do understand that no two submissive's are the same and that you, as frustrated as you may be at times, thrive from the control he has.
Which is why I asked the original question. As I read your entry I could not help but think what a calming and reassuring sentiment Omega could say. "I understand." For me this is his way of expressing his compassion for your struggles, for your uncertainty and frustration and although the rules will not change, he has empathy for the challenge this new journey has created.
In truth I could not help but smile at his words thinking what a wonderful way to confirm the obstacles you were facing and that he was (is) willing to listen all you had to say without censoring you or quieting you. What a beautifully open environment for venting.
Oh the intricacies of relationships. :) I really do hope you find peace along this new journey and that you continue to express yourself as you embrace all of Omega's expectations.
Sending you big hugs,
x
~cockdoll
just sending you ((((Hugs))) mouse, especially for the next post (which has comments closed).
It's hard when you want something and then you get it and then you're struggling with it! Maybe it's because it's a change and an adjustment, as well as the age old fact that he hasn't responded with what you had in mind when you asked for more?
I just find that any change (not just in TTWD) I struggle a bit with, even when It's something I've wanted, waited for and worked towards xxxx
This post... I recognized myself in it. David does this. I'm upset or confused, even angry, and he says exactly the same thing, I'll bet it's the same tone too, "I understand".
On one hand it makes me want to scream, he can be so f-ing dispassionate, and on the other, it's comforting, because I know he really does understand. It signals to me that he recognizes my point of view (the comforting compassionate piece) but he is not going to be moved by it (the I want to scream in frustration piece). Although there is part of me that is eminently comforted by knowing he isn't going to be moved.
I've argued myself in a circle didn't I? sigh.
P,
Oh totally don't mind the giggle! It's just a simple thing...or should be.
And yes mouse trusts him completely!
Hugs,
mouse
Lmao! Yes! No apologies. And honestly mouse knows its silly to complain about it.
Yes!! It probably depends on mouse's mood or what he's saying it about..
You inspired mouse to turn on comments on that blog!
Hugs,
mouse
Daddy,
Ok you've never said that exactly...you'd probably say something much more elegant than that.
Sorry, mouse has been such a pill lately.
I love you!
Yep...it's the way it's always felt to mouse..
That might be his word...the bottom one...
There are many a time mouse has said, "whatever". Lol
No no sign needed for that...all he'd have to do is unzip. And mouse is all over that.
~c,
You gave mouse a lot to think about, then after mouse was punished...well then thought totally different...too angry with him.
The simple truth is the "I understand" thing he says, just annoys mouse. While she can't say what she would prefer he said. It's more about just needing to say something -- to get the whole thought out (and yea numerous times). Because there are times she feels if she repeats the complaint enough, he'll change his mind? Ya that's peobably it.
It's hard sometimes meeting the expectations. But really, they're not hard and there's little doubt he could make them even more strict.
You're totally right, he's not saying that he doesn't need or want to hear it. He's saying that he does understands the struggle just like he knows, mouse will be fine.
Thanks so much for the reminder!
Hugs,
mouse
Thanks so much! It's better today.
Hugs,
mouse
It's ok, mouse is dizzy from running her own circles lately, "look kids! Big Ben, Parliament!"
A little national lampoon's European Vacation reference.
But still apt.
Right?
Hugs,
mouse
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