This blog contains information that is adult in nature. If you are underage please leave at once.


Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Flashing Cursor Syndrome

Blink, blink, blink it flashes in this mocking way it seems to have when mouse isn't at all certain what to write about. Our weekend was quiet and long. In the morning hours we lazed in bed, shirking for a moment all of our responsibilities. The weather has been cold.

Sunday morning, Daddy made a fire in the fireplace, and it burned almost continuously until this morning, with embers still present. Another log added and it seemed to dwindle, only to reignite just moments ago. If fire is tricky like that, relationships are just as tricky also, just when you think the flame has gone out something happens to remind you that hasn't. Of BDSM styled relationships, regardless of the dynamic (M/s. D/s and so on), it is often said they burn hotter than the typical relationship most people engage in.

Now don't misunderstand mouse isn't talking about "kinky" people who keep a vibrator and maybe a pretty bright pink flogger tucked into a drawer with maybe a pair of handcuffs. For them, it's fun, irregular (and there's nothing wrong with that) but nothing they'd consider be continued outside the bedroom and certainly never all the time.

Sometimes kinky folk turn their noses up at us, as if they know what it's about because they can make themselves get off to a vibrator, as though they've unlocked the mystery shrouding our dynamic. It's difficult also dealing with friends who simply don't understand our relationship and if it were fully explained would probably be inclined to alert the authorities. The lines are drawn down the middle, with half of mouse's friends saying to her, "You don't know how lucky you are to be home," and the other camp who say with equal tenacity,"I could never be without my career."

It is also rather ironic both camps would equally dismiss the fact Omega and mouse have frequent sex because we're newlyweds still, as though the "newness" of us negates age. Both camps are rather insulting to mouse's ear, although she's gotten much better at tuning them out, as the former seems to think that being home isn't "work" and the latter demeans it because it doesn't come with a corner office and a large paycheck. This isn't to suggest that it's all Master/slave all the time, while it does seem to take up a sizable chunk of our time, or more specifically Daddy's time. We frequently have conversations that haven't a thing to do with it.

An example of that might be our social calendar, which mouse is responsible for setting. Meal preparations and shopping generally falls on mouse also. Daddy exerts more control over other things, like how mouse spends her days, or what she wears or eats while he's not at home and yes even how her downtime is spent (if there is any downtime before dinner). Lately however he's not offering much permission, mouse has been experiencing pain from her thumbs to the elbow, obviously a symptom that she's been using the iPad and her phone too much.

It'll get better, we just need to stop it before it gets worse.

 

6 comments:

  1. The working thing, coincidently i handed my notice in today, having a career was important to me and its one of the few things i made clear on when i committed to this relationship with the bossman was that i would not compromise on work.

    However if im honest here, and with myself, it has at times in the past 'clashed' (for want of a better word) with our dynamic, i would have stressful days, a lot of responsibility..and i would find it difficult to remove the work 'hat'...plus i know it makes him sound old fashioned but i know he would prefer me at home, but ultimately i know he will support me in what makes me happy.

    I do think though as a woman, regardess of being M/s etc there is sometimes expectations made of us, if we have a career and children there are those that whisper "why have children if your not going to raise them" and if your a stay at home mum you get the "what do you do all day" !

    i shall offer my sympathies over the pain in thumbs......damn those ipads....i have been forcibly weaned off mine....he has made it password protected and i have to take it to him to get access and it has to be for something other than candy
    crush......im sufferring withdrawl symptoms.

    x




    ReplyDelete
  2. "If fire is tricky like that, relationships are just as tricky also, just when you think the flame has gone out something happens to remind you that hasn't. Of BDSM styled relationships, regardless of the dynamic (M/s. D/s and so on), it is often said they burn hotter than the typical relationship most people engage in."
    ^^ Love this!

    And in terms of work Vs stay at home. Us women are screwed either way, there's judgement on both sides. Yeah, it kinda sucks.

    I hope your thumbs feel better!

    -RR Blondie x

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. We are completely screwed either way and it's really sad. Even being a sub comes with its own issues where other's are concerned.

      Hugs,
      mouse

      Delete
  3. As my Daddy says, "Ups and downs."
    Good for you to tune out the negative comments... not easy, but necessary!

    Hugs,

    K

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks K...glad to see you around again!

      Hugs,
      mouse

      Delete

All comments are moderated.