More on subjugation and slavery:
Long ago within these pages in post called "Counting Stars By Candlelight" mouse wrote about, what else, her relationship with Daddy. This post had to do with our relationship house and who decides what goes into it.
"Is there room for change? Of course, our relationship "box" isn't really a box, to me it's an old house built long ago. The foundation is solid, and the bones of the house are in great shape. It has magnificent flow. Yes, it creaks and sometimes groans, it expands and contracts with the weather. It must be maintained. Windows sealed, paint added, it must be insulated, and ultimately filled with whatever Omega decides to put into it. This doesn't mean that I don't have a choice or a voice because I do, but the decision is left to him. I'm fully comfortable with that. We can disagree on wall colors or what kind of cabinets to put in the kitchen, but it's still all good. There are no games being played, nothing held over the other's head, no trying to trick the other person. It is simply decided, understood and accepted. To us it's easy because we're right for each other."
Wow where was this post when mouse was decorating and obsessing about paint colors? The spirit of the post remains unaltered. It also fits the post mouse wrote on Subjugation.
Things in the blogosphere go in waves with topics like in a power exchange relationship who holds the power? This discussion, which mouse often forgets, is really about submissives. This highlights the difference between submission and consensual slavery.
In our dynamic it would be very insulting to imply in anyway that mouse is really in control of the relationship because she begged for his control. That Omega's power is just an illusion.
That's as silly as saying that he rearranged the kitchen because mouse topped him from the bottom into doing by placing a dead mouse on the kitchen floor!
It was Omega who first asked mouse if she were open to a Master/slave relationship. In time mouse made the choice to hand her power over to him. Easily he could have said for her to quit her job, not renew her driver's license, shave her head...whatever would bring him pleasure. He can use her as an object as he wishes. it is her purpose to serve him and see his needs are met. To freely give her support to him emotionally and physically. Why yes, initially mouse did choose to submit, but once she was bound by his authority. He can ask mouse to do anything (within common sense), and when he does ask something of her she finds difficult, it reinforces mouse's slavery to him. A powerful reminder that mouse cannot refuse (again within the confines of common sense).
He can decide what music she listens to, the kind of vehicle she drives (or if she drives), the clothing she wears or doesn't. He can control her speech patterns and if she speaks at all! An owner of a slave must be very active in their Dominance.
He may ask her for her opinion but reserves the right to go his own way. He retains the right to use his property as he sees fit, and he's only limited by laws and his imagination. He really only answers to himself and conscious.
Anything that mouse has is because he allows it. If he gives her a choice in something he expects her to be honest and to choose wisely. If she tells him that she simply cannot decide, then she shouldn't complain if he doesn't choose what she really wanted. After all, he gave her the opportunity to decide. Recently, he simply asked mouse if she wished to be treated like a slave or a child. When mouse meekly replied slave, he made her kneel on rice for several minutes to remind her of that choice. His point was well made.
Recently, mouse has grumbled a little about Daddy. He spoke curtly to her in a shoe store, he's controlled what she can purchase, he's decided what she does each day and even decided what mouse will cook. But aside from offering quick apologies and keeping her behavior in check -- this is what she signed up for.The truth remains consensual slavery isn't for everyone. It requires a lot of faith and trust and this goes on both sides of the power exchange dynamic. Monkey has written a few posts recently on "breaking the girl". While mouse shuddered when she read it, she totally understood. And the truth is that mouse was badly 'broken' by alpha. But also, slowly broken by Omega, and in his breaking of mouse -- she has truly begun to heal from her past. It's all wrapped up in her slavery to Daddy, which for her at least is deeply profound and intense. Again it's not for everyone, but for mouse it's completely turned her life around. And the place she's in is very good.
Song Selection: Terrapin Station; R. Hunter, J. Garcia